There is one question you can ask your significant other that will nine out of ten times help avoid a fight. Marriage counselors agree that this simple question will help your relationship. It was tweeted out in January and went viral.
I've never been able to put it into words as concisely as Alexander James did when he tweeted it out. But, from experience, I can tell you that it can assist not only romantic relationships, but friendships, too.
I used to hang out with a good friend. We would vent about our lives. She has the "helper" type personality and would always try to solve my issues. It left me at the end of our conversations feeling frustrated and even more mentally exhausted. I didn't even realize it at the time, but I wasn't looking for solutions, I just wanted to be HEARD. She would always go home and I would stay back and decompress.
I have another friend and I used to go over to her house for wine nights. I would vent to her. She would respond with , "Oh, Taylor, i'm sorry you're going through this." The next day, I always, despite all the wine consumed, woke up feeling good, like a weight had been lifted from me. This was because I was HEARD. She didn't try to solve my problems, she just offered compassion and understanding.
So what is the million dollar question that can save your relationships??
"Do you want comfort, or do you want solutions?" Think about it. Think about the arguments you get into with your friends, family members and significant others. "Do you want comfort or do you want solutions?"